The Attraction Formula

(C-R)+Q+SE = Attraction

If you don’t know what breaking rapport or qualification is please refer to my blogs on those topics before reading this to make this blog easier to understand.

What is it?

What does (C-R)+Q+SE = Attraction mean? To break it down C is comfort, R is rapport, Q is Qualification, and SE is sexual escalation.  So when applying it to this model building comfort plus breaking rapport plus qualification equals the attraction between friends and people you want to network with and when you add sexual escalation in the mix it creates the attraction you need to seduce someone you want to be more than friends with.

Because this blog is a school project I will not be covering sexual escalation in this blog, however I will publish a blog on sexual escalation in January after this project is over so stay tuned in.

How do you use it?

When you first meet a person you need to build comfort with them, think about it when you’re with your friends you can say highly inappropriate things to them and they wont get mad but if you were to go up to them with out knowing them and say the same things it could end up with you getting into an altercation, well why is that? You can do this with your friends and not random strangers because they’re comfortable with you. Building comfort is crucial to building relationships because a person who isn’t comfortable being around you is not going to want to interact with you or see you again. To build comfort you need to build rapport with the person.

Once a sufficient amount of rapport is built its time to start breaking rapport. Building comfort is good but if your entire interaction is you building comfort it’ll end up being bland and not something to remember so break rapport to keep things interesting. While you’re building comfort you should be qualifying the person to see if they’re even worth spending time building comfort with. Also apposed to you trying to control the conversation and topics you speak about use qualification to find things the person actually wants to talk about. When you do this you don’t end up being the only one talking. A lot of the time when a person isn’t really being talkative the problem is that you’re not talking to them about things they are interested in so they don’t have much to respond with. If you ask them about something they’re interested in the person can talk for days about it because they know about it and they’re passionate about it, which will lead to a much better conversation. Doing all this with a person successfully should build attraction between you and that person unless through the qualification process you find out you don’t like each other.

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