Breaking Rapport
Building and breaking rapport can be a very powerful tool
when building attraction. When you’re having a conversation with someone there
are peaks and dull points in the interaction. What a lot of guys do is break
rapport during the dull point of the conversation; but doing this will usually
leave you with undesirable results.
Don’t break rapport during a dull moment or you will leave a
dull negative memory of you in her head, you should instead break rapport
during a high peak in the interaction. A lot of guys might be thinking why
would you break rapport when it’s going good?
Well think about this, say for example someone gave you a
piece of cake, and that piece of cake was the most delicious mouth watering
slice of heaven you have ever tasted in you life; the very thought of that cake
makes your mouth water, and you feel the same euphoric feeling you got when you
first bit into it. Now imagine having them take back their cake and you have to
sit there and watch them enjoy eating it. In that scenario what is most likely
to happen is you would crave more cake because it was so good but you didn’t
get enough, and now you can’t wait for the chance to taste it again. You might
even go out of your way to try and get some more.
Well when you break rapport with a woman at a high point in
the interaction the same thing happens, she is left with a good, fun, positive
image of you and when the person remembers you, they remember experiencing the
fun positive emotions that they want to feel. Braking rapport at a high point
will leave her wanting more of what she can’t have and hopefully thinking of
getting some more. This will also
demonstrate high value to the girl, it shows her that she isn’t the center of
your world and you wont just drop everything you where doing to be with her all
night like every other guy. Your time is valuable and limited; this is
reflected by your need to go because you have your prior engagements you have
to attend to, or you needing get back to your friends, what ever reason you
come up with for breaking rapport. Your not worried that you wont see her again
so your not nervous about breaking this interaction and going around having
other ones, allowing her to do the same because you’re a cool confident guy, which
are things women are attracted to.
So remember when you’re talking to women at a venue its ok
to walk away and have other interactions, don’t be the annoying guy who follows
her around all night until she can’t stand you and is looking for excuses to
get away from you, or leave at a dull point. Break rapport when it is going
good say something like “ You know what, I’m being really rude to my friends I should
really get back to them, so lets exchange contact info because I really want to
continue this conversation with you later” then give her a hug and get back to
your friends or go open a new set.
I hope you’ve enjoyed part one of this two part blog on
breaking rapport and have found it helpful, stay tuned in for part two on pre
opening as it will have information that will add on to what you learned in
this post and give you insights on how to enhance those skills and have a great
night out.
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