Pre Opening/opening multiple sets
Pre opening a lot of people in the venue early in the night
is a very powerful way of setting up your night for success.
What is pre opening? Pre opening is opening a set that lasts
less than 10 seconds, if you stay in the interaction more then 10 seconds
you’re just doing a regular opener.
Pre opening can be as simple as using a functional opener to
ask where the bathroom is, giving them a quick compliment, or sharing a fun or
funny moment with the person then breaking rapport, if you break rapport with a
person and leave a positive image of you in their head & it’ll be easier
for you to approach them later.
What are the results of pre opening a set and the
interaction going well? Hopefully they will remember you from earlier on and
instead of thinking who is this random stranger trying to talk to me, they’ll
remember the positive memory of you and they’ll most likely be warm and
friendly towards you instead of being closed guarded and hostile.
Now how do you use this affectively to set your night up for
success? Well when you go into a venue you’re usually not in the party state
and you need to warm up to get in state; pre opening can be your warm up
because it is low pressure and not a big deal. It doesn’t matter how good you
are, if you aren’t in the social state, you haven’t talked to anyone in the
venue and the first person you try to go up to is the “10” in the club, it is
probably not going to go well for you. You’ll probably be to intimidated to do
it and you’ll waste your night just standing in the corner trying to get your
self to do it. Then if you finally
muster up the courage to approach you are most likely going to be feeling a lot
of overwhelming anxiety and nervousness because you haven’t talked to anyone
prior to going up to the most intimidating person in the venue, you’ll get
stuck in your head instead of being present to the moment, and eventually end
up getting blown out. Instead of approaching the most intimidating set in the
club, you should just go around and pre open a bunch of people, it could be
anybody, this will increase your social momentum with every approach and
quickly get you in the social mood, it will also build your social proof
because people will see you going around talking to women having fun, and by
the time you finally get to the “10” approaching and talking to her will be
nothing for you because you’ve been having fun talking to people all night.
Another way of using this is lining up interactions you want
to have later on, for example say there are multiple women in the venue you’d
like to get to know, instead of leaching on to one and following her around all
night, not approaching anyone else hoping it’ll work out between the two of you,
you can pre open them all in the beginning of the evening, give a reason for
you guys to meet up later, then you can meet up later for the reason you told
them. If you do that you have multiple sets who will most likely welcome you
with open arms instead of judging stares which makes your life much easier.
Something that is crucial to remember that a lot of guys
forget when they go out is that you can come back to a set that you’ve opened, you
don’t need to stick around all night. Go out and have numerous interactions.
If your talking to a women earlier on in the night she might
want to end the experience with you and do something else; it doesn’t always
mean you did something wrong. Think about it people go threw a lot of hassles
to get all dressed up and look their best when they come out, they don’t want
to only chill with the first person they talk to or have only one experience,
they want multiple good experiences throughout the night. That’s why it is
important to know when to break rapport and to not get to upset if things are
going good and she breaks rapport with you. It’s perfectly fine to break
rapport and come back later, the women will most likely appreciate the fact
that you don’t leach on to her and be more attracted to you because you going
around talking to multiple women and having a good time with out her which
builds your social proof because it shows you’re a man in demand that other
women want.
Opening multiple sets in the night will help increase your
chances of success. Say you’ve lined up your interactions using pre opening and
now your going back to those sets trying to close; because you have multiple
options to choose from, if during the interaction you find out you are not that
interested in that person you can cut off the interaction and go to another one
that way you don’t have to waste your time and effort on someone you have no
interest in. Also if you get multiple contact details for example 10 if two numbers
flake on you, you still have the other 8 so your night wasn’t the complete
waste of time it would have been had you only interacted with one women that
night.
To sum up pre opening is a great way to get into state
quickly, build social momentum, build social proof, and line up interactions.
Opening multiple sets increases your rate of success because you have more
options, and breaking rapport at the right time is a way to make sure she wants
to see you again apposed to running away when she see’s you again.
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