What does it mean to be
detached from outcome?
Being detached from outcome means you are not attached to
any outcomes or desires.
When you are detached from outcome you have a lot less let
downs in life because you aren’t attached to outcomes or desires. When you
expect specific results and they have to be EXACTLY the way you want it, down
to every last little micro detail, when ever they don’t go exactly as planned
your positive state is disrupted and replaced with anger, anxiety, doubt, fear
and many other unappealing emotions.
How does this apply to pick
up?
When you are talking to women and you depend on outcomes
such as you making her laugh, having sex with her, getting along with her
you’ll generally end up repelling the things you want away from you. This will
usually happen because when you depend on the outcome you become needy,
desperate, and validation seeking.
Instead of getting caught up in the outcomes, don’t let how
things unfold affect your emotions or mood, roll with the punches, re-calibrate to the situation, and keep
moving forward. You’ll usually find that this mindset will not only help you produce better results but keep you happy for
what get, and not freaking out about what’s not going exactly how you would like
it to.
Now this doesn’t mean you can’t want things, you can, but don’t
be fixated on to many specific details because in life things change. What you
might want badly today could be a faded memory tomorrow, like when you really
want a girl, then you objectively look at the situation and realize getting
with her would have been a huge mistake.
If you were attached to the outcome of being with her you
would still try to make it work even if you know it wont, which will cause you
turmoil instead of you getting to move forward on to better things. Being
detached from outcome is crucial for pick up because it cuts down the amount of
needy and validation-seeking behaviors you exhibit which ruin you interaction.
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